October 19th, 2017

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The Ten Commandments mention parental relationships two times; once positive and once negative. No parents were perfectly good or perfectly bad. Whether the influence was 99% in one direction or 1% in the other, in every generational relationship, there are good things to receive and bad things to reject.

…פוקד עוון אבות על בנים

Deuteronomy 5:9 – visiting the sins of the fathers on the sons…

God does not punish us for our parents’ wrongdoings. However, the result of our parents’ lacks and wrongs does have a great influence on us. We have to forgive them and remove the negative influence from our memories, souls and behavior. Sometimes a person unconsciously repeats the same bad actions of his parents; or sometimes over-reacts in just the opposite way; which is still in effect, letting that influence dominate us. Some fathers were abusive; some were absent.

…כבד את אביך ואת אמך

Deuteronomy 5:16 – honor you father and your mother…

When we honor someone, we place ourselves in a position to receive good things from them. When we honor our parents, we receive the good spiritual inheritance and qualities that they had to pass on to us. Honor goes up; and blessing comes down.

We have to come to peace with our parents’ “inheritance” and influence in our lives. I recently came across an old photo of my parents, when they were the age that my children are now. When I saw it, I experienced an inner release and freedom. It was as if I was finally totally at peace and in line with all who my parents are.

There is a process that many of us go through. At each age of our children’s lives, we understand our parents’ perspective of their relationship with us when we were that age. This gives us a “second chance,” as it were, to repent, be set free and receive blessing.

This week, we had a time of discussion and prayer with the men on our team in which we realized that many of the issues we seem to be struggling with in the ministry organization, the congregations, and our decision making processes, had nothing to do with what seemed to be the obvious issue. It all had to do with one another’s relationships with our dads.

The responses of each one of us were not appropriate or proportionate to the issue we were dealing with.   In order to become the person God has made us to be, to fulfill our destiny, and to bear much fruit in our lives, we must be healed of parental wounds, forgive them of their wrongs, and receive their good qualities.

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By | 2017-10-21T06:00:55+00:00 October 19th, 2017|Tags: , , , , |5 Comments


  1. Carlyn Wilson October 20, 2017 at 9:35 pm

    Like apples of gold in settings of silver.

  2. Sheila October 22, 2017 at 12:55 am

    Enlightenment! I love it, I believe it, I receive it. Thank you.

  3. John Castle October 23, 2017 at 3:41 am

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    Thank you.

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  4. kaytee Rath October 23, 2017 at 8:35 pm

    I believe God does allow curses visiting the sins of the fathers on the children Deut.23:2 curse of the bastard goes with rejection, bitterness and rebellion spirits. these cause us to need Him and when we accept Yeshua as savior AND pray Gal3:13 that Yeshua being a curse for us on the cross, we are loosed from the curses. My husband and I repented of inordinate sex but that horrid spirit followed us till we asked forgiveness for parents sins and asked God to take off the curse and throw out the spirits. we instantly lined up with God’s Word and testify that those spirits have never bothered us again these 40 years of marriage now. Pastors never preach on that but it is scriptural.

  5. Cindie Haese October 6, 2018 at 11:23 am

    Powerful and important!
    Brings to mind God’s words to Jeremiah, …”if you separate the precious from the vile…then I will give you again a settled place of quiet and safety…”.

    It is possible to recognize the mistakes and yet honor because it is our Heavenly Father who is in and over all the things in our lives.

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