November 23rd, 2017

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“That they all may be one, as You Father, are in Me, and I in You; that they also may be one in Us, that the world may believe that You sent Me.”  John 17:21

Working with others can often be a challenge. “Iron sharpens iron, but at the same time this can make sparks fly and cut us deeply. Recently, I learned one of the most difficult yet empowering lessons in my walk with God. In a training session, Dr. Jim Wilder of Life Model Works, said to me, “One critical mark of maturity is learning to keep our relationships bigger than our problems.” That phrase kept going through my spirit, helping me to transform, because I had a lot of tension in my relationships, and I was desperate for His help. Every time I began to get “stuck” in this way, I could hear the Lord saying, “My child, your problems are temporal, one day they will disappear. Your relationships are eternal, they will last forever in My kingdom. So make your relationships bigger than your problems.”

You see, my pattern of self-preservation had been to simply cut the person off who was overwhelming me and then I thought I had resolved my problem– because I thought the person WAS my problem! I had to learn to keep my relationships separate from my problems.

I remember one really difficult ministry relationship. While in prayer, the Lord said, “I have an inheritance in that person. It really matters to me that I receive the glory that is due to Me from that person’s life. The way that he is right now, I may not receive it, I need an intercessor in prayer and I’m allowing you to “feel the gap.” Will you be a champion for him in secret? Will you pray that everything which I have ordained for him will come to pass?” I was still angry and hard hearted. The Lord said to me, “Do you love Me?” He paused a while for the answer from my heart. “Will you pray that I receive the glory that is due to Me?” I said with a softened heart and tears in my eyes, because I saw how hard hearted I had become, “Yes, Lord I will pray for my brother’s fullness.”

Isn’t that what Yeshua has done with each of us? We are full of problems and repeatedly unable to agree with Him. Yet, He makes His relationships with us bigger than the problems. This is one way to grow in intimacy and maturity. Let’s ask Him for grace to imitate Him in this way.

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By |2017-11-23T16:16:07+00:00November 23rd, 2017|Tags: , , , , |9 Comments


  1. Kate November 24, 2017 at 3:47 pm

    Great truth for us all! We all have a common enemy and it is not each other!

  2. Marda November 24, 2017 at 5:40 pm

    Oh wow! I really needed to read this today. I have been wrestling with a challenging person for sometime. I have to see the relationship and interceding as more important to our Father than the problem! Thank you so much!

  3. Lucia November 24, 2017 at 7:41 pm

    Read it just in time! Thank you for sharing.

  4. Roni Mathews November 24, 2017 at 11:20 pm

    Oh my,.what a word. I perceive that if each one of us walks this out, tremendous healing, maturation and destiny would increase and expand within the body corporately. As always,.there’s a timely word in your mouth.

  5. Diane Nikfar November 25, 2017 at 6:52 am

    Thank you for being transparent and sharing this important truth with us. It teaches me to pray more, pray without ceasing, pray til you pray through….and let your relationships be bigger than your problems. Timely! Thank you, Brother!

  6. Murdina November 25, 2017 at 8:07 am

    Some years ago my son decided to marry someone he had met on the internet after only 6 months and seeing her 3 times.
    I did not attend the wedding or give them my blessing. I thought that was absolutely crazy.
    This caused a deep rift in our family of two because I was a single mother.
    A missionary friend of mine told me I should have gone to the wedding in order to preserve our relationship.
    It is now after many years and the birth of my first granddaughter that my son is reaching out to me…..
    From this time on in situations like this I shall not ask how I feel but “How will Gid get glory and honor”
    Thank you for sharing.

  7. Heather Neill November 25, 2017 at 8:27 pm

    Thank you for a timely message.

  8. Tristan November 27, 2017 at 6:09 pm

    Thank you for this post

  9. Lisa Plummer November 30, 2017 at 5:37 am

    I love your heart and ministry and Dr. Jim Wilder/s too…and of course, you two know each other. I cannot even imagine how cool heaven is going to be! Your ministries are a blessing to the Body of Christ!

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